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Royal Family

I stood at the end of the walkway holding the letter with both hands. Ahead, was the path that lead straight up the stairs to the grand entrance to the beautiful castle. I looked down at the letter in my hands. I had re-folded it and gently re-tied The King’s signature scarlet thread to close it back up after I’d read it. It was a summons to come to the castle. I was not supposed to bring anything or change – just come as I am. As I stared at the letter, remembering it’s instructions, I became increasingly aware of how I looked. I felt loads of doubt. 

I can’t believe I’m here. At the castle. Dressed like this! I am wearing such filthy clothing, but this is all I have. I tried to clean myself up. There was no possible way that a poor filth like me was ever going to clean up well enough to enter the castle, much less to be presented before the royal family. I felt my cheeks turn red and my throat start to tighten. I took a deep breath and still looking at the letter, reminded myself that it was in fact addressed to me, my full name in fact. And it said quite clearly and directly that I was to come to the castle immediately, not wasting any time for self-presentation. So as I let out that deep breath, I took the first step forward, and then the next. Step after step, I didn’t take my eyes off of that letter… until I got to the steps. 

I allowed myself to look up… and up… and up! It was so much bigger that I realized living so far away. It was magnificent! All the gold adornment seemed to shine as if it contained the sun instead of reflecting it. I slowly took one step at a time and when I reached the door, paused once more to look back at the letter I had been holding. I was planning what I would say to the person who opened the door. I would show them the letter and explain that I had come immediately, without delay. I would explain that I didn’t have any other clothes to wear nor the means to purchase any and that I would be willing to wait outside so as not to get anything messed up or cause extra work for the staff. 

To my surprise the door opened before I could knock. The person on the other side looked down at me and his face instantly broke into a warm smile. I just stood there dumbfounded.

“How excited we are that you are here!”

How did he know who I was? I don’t know this person.

“The King has been waiting for your arrival, Your Highness.”

Wait. What did he just call me? I opened my mouth to correct him but he motioned me inside and told me to please proceed forward up the stairs just ahead. After walking through the doorway, I turned around to apologize for the way I looked and start my speech, but there was no one there! I looked around a few more minutes to see if somehow he was in some corner that I hadn’t been paying attention to, but no one at all was to be found. I waited for a moment, thinking he’d be back from wherever he went, but no one came. 

Still clutching my letter, I tucked my elbows in and walked forward slowly, constantly looking around to make sure I wasn’t somehow leaving grime in the gorgeous palace of The King just by walking through it. I was stunned at just how bright and beautiful everything was around me. It seemed like the hallway went on forever and I took notice of the details. The floor was a pristine white marble – not even my filthy shoes left marks or a trail of footprints. Tall windows that looked crystal lined the hallway and showed off the beautiful grounds outside. And the most exquisite tapestries hung adorning every wall high and low. Each one was unique and looked like they told a story. I wanted to stop to examine but I worried that at any moment someone would come through a door and rush me out of the place yelling at me how I shouldn’t have ever come in here. 

I turned a corner and finally saw the giant, ornate doors to the throne room. I stopped dead in my tracks. My throat started to tighten again and just as I was about to turn and run back, the doors opened and someone started walking toward me.

It was the Great Prince!

All the running I was about to do moments ago suddenly seemed impossible. My feet felt cemented to the floor and I thought for a moment that if I just stood extremely still, He wouldn’t notice me. But no luck. It was like He had known this entire time that I was walking up to that door. His eyes locked onto mine the moment the doors opened. He had already been making His way toward me. A gentle smile was on His face, but I knew I didn’t belong here. Everything about me screamed “Imposter!”.

I looked down quickly and dropped to the floor in reverence. It wasn’t a second before His robe was right there beneath my face bowed to the floor. But then, the unimaginable: He knelt down next to me and addressed me by name. I hadn’t given anyone my letter so how could any of these people have known my name?

Repeating my name again He said, “Lift your head. You are not in the wrong place. You belong here, with me. Today, I have made you part of my family.”

It was as if He already knew I had prepared a speech about my unworthiness because before I could utter a word, He continued, “Yes I know all about your history and how you got here today. In fact, I was the one who sent that letter. That is my own signature and the scarlet thread that accompanies all of my letters. I see it is still in your hand.” 

Not wanting to appear disrespectful, I lifted my head as instructed and fought back tears of awe and humble awareness that I hadn’t done anything to deserve any of what the Great Prince had just said to me.

“Your Highness, I don’t understand why I’m here. I am not born of royal blood. I have done nothing to deserve even being invited into your home, not to mention become part of your family. My whole life I have been the worst of the ones who live in the gutter. I have nothing to bring, nothing to give. Look at these filthy rags. I tried to clean myself up, but I have nothing good, and too many disgusting scars. This is the best I could do but it is not even close to enough for this beautiful palace or the honor of your presence. I don’t know why you summoned me here. I know about your greatness and kindness and I thought perhaps there was something you needed me to do, so I came to give myself to your service. But now I am hear you say that you have made me part of your family? How can this even be?”

My eyes welled with tears that I could no longer hold back. I was certain that there was not enough mercy in the world to compel the Great King to allow this. I knew full well that a filth like me was not allowed even to be in His presence, forget about being an adopted son or daughter!

The Great Prince stood and held out His hand to help me off the ground. I timidly took hold of it and He gently lifted me to my feet. His eyes spoke gentleness without a single word coming from His mouth. Placing His hands reassuringly on my shoulders He said, “I have made all the arrangements, there is nothing more you have to do. It is because of His grace that I am able to make you part of this family. It is finished. The Father is waiting to welcome you home.” 

We turned toward the massive throne room doors, and holding tightly to the Great Prince’s hand as though I’d fall down without it. He led me in to see the Great King. 

I was barely two steps across the threshold when He saw me. I froze. I still wasn’t sure how all of this came to be! I turned to the Great Prince to ask if He was sure it was ok to be here in all my filth. It was right at that moment that I noticed, I wasn’t dressed in rags anymore. There was no speck of dirt anywhere on my clothes or body. Even more impossible: all my ugly scars were now healed! I was … glowing! The Great Prince was fully smiling and raised his hand to direct my attention when I saw the Great King break into a run right for me! I took a step back, for a moment fearing His wrath. But the Great Prince held me firmly and told me not to fear. 

Suddenly here He is and here am I. Without even a second to think about it, He threw His arms around me, giving me the greatest hug I never had. I wasn’t sure how or why but I knew that this was right where I was supposed to be. I couldn’t explain it, but I knew now for certain that the Great King was my Father and fully accepted me as His child. I held on to that hug for what seemed like an eternity, and He didn’t let me go. Looking into the eyes of the Great Prince I still didn’t understand how He did it, but because of Him I was finally where I belong: in The Father’s arms.

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Still Loved

So many nights I have sat here, curled up, confronted with darkness – a darkness I invited. Some days my to-do list is enough to keep my mind occupied and feelings of shame at bay, but only for a time. 

I work hard to remind myself of the truth over and over. Sometimes it works and feelings of condemnation are alleviated. At those times I am overwhelmed with gratitude as I  recall what The Father sacrificed for me. I am filled with awe considering His love for me… 

So why do I repeatedly feel distant from Him? Why does this theme of feeling unlovable continue its cruel cycle through my mind?

Life creeps in again. Things need to be tended to. Sleep is hard to leave each morning and easy to wander into. I don’t remember being this tired before. Here now, even sleep ends with the feeling that I’ve failed, failed to do more and see progress. Once again I welcome shame to the doorstep and usher it in… 

There must be something I am doing wrong… or something I messed up a while ago. If The Father has left me, I can understand why. I am a mess and I have let Him down so many times. 

Here I am again, face buried in my knees, quiet tears forming a ring around me as if to block me into the guilt I feel. The truth that I knew yesterday about His love and sacrifice for me seems distant and besides, surely I actually voided it long ago anyway. He is quiet and I am not worthy of His presence or affection. Some child of His I turned out to be. 

 

From my position on the floor I smell a sweet fragrance. Not an overpowering smell… rather, its a pleasing smell, almost relaxing. I’ve smelled this fragrance before… Before I lift my head to see where it’s coming from, I hear His tender voice.

 

My precious little one, I have never stopped loving you. I know you are hurting, thinking that I left you and that you drove me away, but that is not true. I desire to be with you more, not less. Don’t you know, I knew all of this was going to happen but I still made that sacrifice – for you. Because I love you. I have always loved you. Nothing you have done or will ever do will remove or cancel my love for you. Those things that you have done that you think have disappointed me enough to drive me away, those are the things that led me to such a great sacrifice for you. Yes, I hurt and weep for you but nothing you have done or experienced has separated you from my love. You love your own children regardless of what good or bad they have done – don’t you know it is even more so with my love for you? I want you to want to spend time with me. I have always been here, waiting for you to make time to speak with me. I am only quiet because you haven’t invited me to speak, you aren’t ready to listen. I am and have been at the door knocking, waiting for your attention and affection. I love you as I always have.

 

I am having a hard time lifting my head to look for The Father’s face as He speaks to me. A flood of gratitude – no, gratitude isn’t the right word… it is a tidal wave of love for The Father has overtaken me. My whole body shakes with tears of relief and joy and love. As He lays His strong and mighty hand gently on my back, I turn and fling my arms around His neck. I have known this fact of the truth of His love for me before, but now my heart has experienced it deeply and personally. 

 

Picking me up off of the floor easily (as my strong Daddy God does sometimes when He comforts me) He says, “Little one, remember that the sacrifice I made for you cannot and will not be undone. It is fully for you. Remember that I mean everything I say and my Word is worth trusting. When I said that you are redeemed and forgiven I mean it fully and completely, with no exceptions. I don’t love you in pieces and parts. I love you all the way, fully. What once millennia ago kept me from my beloved children, I long ago made certain it never would again. My love for you is stronger than anything you have ever done, right or wrong. I will never leave you. I am here. I am singing over you. I am healing your brokenness. I am your Father, your Strength, your Shield, your Forgiveness, your Redeemer, your Righteousness, your Source of Enduring Love.

 

I lay my head against The Father’s chest once again. My crying has been calmed by His tender mercies and the demonstration of His truthful and everlasting love and grace for me.

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Museum

I am a pretty analytical person. I think a lot about things. I probably think too much about some things. Last week I had one of those thinking days. I was analyzing my thoughts in fact! I was struggling with my love language, words of affirmation. I was trying to understand why I had a stronger draw to help someone who affirmed me than I even wanted to be in the same room with someone who hadn’t. I was a little disgusted with myself because I knew the feelings creeping in to my heart had been poisoned with pride.

I grappled with the questions “Why am I like this? Why is this my love language?”

Father, can’t you just take away this driving desire for affirmation from people? Why can’t my primary love language be something else that isn’t driven by such pride?

That last one was kind of a silly question because anything that deals with feeling like I’m loved has the potential to be twisted by pride, even acts of service.

The Father had an answer already prepared for me.

I put that desire for affirmation in you, it is a piece of myself that I put in you too. Come to me when you feel that desire for affirmation go unfulfilled. I love you and am always cheering you on, loving you perfectly and completely. Listen for my affirmation, especially when you need it the most.”

I want all of my affirmation to come from The Father…so why do I struggle with this? Why do I still feel this longing for people to acknowledge or appreciate what I’ve done? I feel wrong or broken, like I’m not doing something right…

The Father tenderly takes my hand and leads me. We are walking through large hallways with marble floors and high ceilings that looked like they went on forever. This was a museum of the great things The Father had done! There were mini replicas of the story of Abraham and Sarah, Jacob fighting with the Lord, Moses, Noah, David… so much to see! But we kept right on walking. When The Father’s pace slowed I was able to see some of the names of people He created and clearly delighted in along with little notes of their accomplishments and proud moments, like a mini scrapbook. I glanced up at The Father. He was smiling, as if He were recalling the notes He’d written about each person. When we finally came to a stop, The Father told me to come look at what He was standing in front of. I noticed there was a frame around it just like the others and some of those notes too. I looked up and I saw … me. The Father wanted to show me something He created, that He was proud of, and it was me.

Kneeling down to make His eyes level with mine, He placed His hands on my shoulders.

You are my very own amazing creation.

That desire to be affirmed – I put that in you. I made that a deep part of who you are. I know you are wondering why I made you this way because you don’t see it as good – but I do.

I gave you this specific desire to be affirmed so that you could enjoy my affirmation and so you could use it to affirm others. People need encouragement and to feel loved, especially when they don’t feel lovable or acceptable. As someone uniquely created to be filled up by affirmation and encouragement, you are specially qualified to give it and receive it when it is given.

I don’t do anything by mistake, precious one. Creating you this way is just one of the great things I’ve given you out of myself. There are even more great things still to come, little one. You are my prized and treasured creation and I’m still writing these notes of wonderful things you are doing and have yet to do.”

By now I was wiping tears from my face and threw my arms around The Father’s neck. He did it again – He showed me His love for me.

 

Precious reader, I’ve shared a little glimpse of my heart and conversation with The Father but I know this message is not just for me. There is a place in His museum where your picture hangs. You are His prized and treasured creation. That thing in you that gets ugly when pride leaks in has a more beautiful purpose. What is The Father whispering to you? Let Him show you your place in His museum. Let Him tell you the story of how He wants to use that piece of who you are for His more beautiful purpose.

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Best Day Ever

Come on. He whispers. Come with me. 

“Where are we going?” (For some reason I think I always need all the details)

We’re going for a walk.

I often find lots of excuses (I call them “reasons”) why I don’t have the time or focus or energy, but this time I wasn’t making any excuses! Yes, I want to take a walk with The Father!

We walk along quietly for a while. It feels like a slow, un-hurried, almost aimless pace. The weather is perfect. The sun is shining to keep us warm and the breeze blows every now and then making sure we aren’t too warm. There are no annoying bugs or critters and there’s what looks like a path laying smoothly in front of us. There is a majestic chorus being sung by the birds, not too loud to be distracting, more like background music. Its as if The Father is orchestrating, painting, and perfecting everything around us while we are walking! I stop for a moment, closing my eyes to just listen and take in the sounds all around me.

I couldn’t help but blurt out clumsily amid the chorus, “The music of the forest is beautiful!”

I am so glad you like it, little one. I made it just for that reason – so you could enjoy it. 

A slow, distracted smile forms on my face. I’m so glad I came on this walk today.

We continue walking and step through the tree line into a wide-open, spacious meadow filled with color from wildflowers and green grass with the bluest sky I’ve ever seen as the backdrop. It looks like we just stepped into a painting! I feel giddy with joy. I want to run and twirl and fling my arms open and fall into the tall wildflowers and soft grass. I look at The Father. He is smiling, almost chuckling as if to say “go ahead!”. I am giggling now running and twirling before falling into the soft ground looking up at the clouds. I’m not even wind

ed. And there The Father is, right beside me on the ground looking at the clouds with me.

 

“This is so beautiful! All these colors and the sky and the grass! Its so wonderful.” While I don’t feel breathless, its almost difficult to get the words out. 

I am glad you like it, little one. I made it just for that reason – so you could enjoy it.

“You make so many beautiful, amazing things. Thank you for bringing me on this walk with you today.”

It feels like time has stopped for a moment. As I lay here smiling and soaking all of this in, I start to wonder what could be on The Father’s mind? Why did He want to bring me on this walk today?

I can tell something is on your mind, little one. What do you want to ask me?

“This is such a wonderful, amazing, beautiful time with you. I really don’t want it to end, but I know we’ll have to go back soon but I don’t want to miss anything before we do. Was there a reason you brought me here? Is there something you want me to know or see or learn?”

Locking His gaze with mine He answers, This right here. He points to my heart and back to His creating a motion as if there were an invisible chord connecting our hearts.

This is what I want you to know. My heart is for you and I long to be connected to your heart in an unbroken way. I desire just to be with you. I want you to want to be with me and to enjoy my company. This moment right here, right now is what I want you to know. What do I want you to learn? I want you to learn that I love you and all this is for you. I want you to learn to be still with me. To seek out these moments and remember them, to hold on to them and foster them. I want you to know that the depths of my heart cry out to the depths of yours, longing for your heart to chase after mine because mine chases yours.

Our walk back was just as quiet as our walk here but it wasn’t an empty quiet. There was fullness in the silence. All that The Father had said still filled the air and my mind. My heart was full. What could possibly bother me or interrupt this great, full love of His for me? I felt safe in His presence. I felt strong in His presence. I felt peace in His presence.

We walked up the steps of the porch and sat together on the swing, examining the sunset together. Taking in the atmosphere with awe, I wonder how I could have never seen a sunset so beautiful, so colorful? I lean my head against The Father’s arm, soaking in every moment, trying to remember all the smallest details and every word, trying to hold it in my memory as if they were a jar full of lightning bugs like the ones now starting to flash in the dusk.

He wraps His arm around me and with a voice of tender reassurance He tells me,

No need to worry, little one. All you ever need to do is seek me out and I will tell you again how much you mean to me. I will always say ‘yes’ to the chance to walk and talk with you, to comfort and reassure you, to bring beauty and praise into your day, and to listen to you. Remember these moments. Remember I am always right here, always ready for the depths of your heart to cry out to mine, always ready for another afternoon walk or sunset swing. You are my most valued